Most of the time, your feelings serve you. They provide critical information or “biological relevance” regarding something or someone you know. Your mind and your body work much like everyone else’s in the world. This is why emotions are similarly expressed throughout the world. However, what if you don’t like the way you are feeling? Can you physically change your feelings? Given your mind and body have to work together to produce your feelings, how can you interrupt this dance?
Look for Patterns
Emotions are many times generated subconsciously. Your subconscious mind works by developing pathways which create patterns. So first, look for patterns in your physiology, your focus and your language. If you want to take your game a step higher, get your phone out and take a video of yourself after a period of prayer when you’re feeling really good. Next, take another video when you are struggling with a problematic feeling. What’s the feeling and what patterns do you notice?
How to Change Your Feelings
Physiology - Compared to when you feel well:
1) What is your face doing?
- Do something else.
2) How’s your posture?
- Change it.
3) What’s going on with your movements?
- Turn on some music and start dancing.
4) How are you walking?
- Change it.
5) How deeply and rapidly are you breathing?
- Take a slow deep breath, inspire for two seconds, expire for 8 seconds.
Focus - Compared to when you feel well:
1) What are you focusing on?
- What else could you be focusing on if you would let yourself?
2) What’s the problem?
- What’s good about the problem?
- No answer? What could be good about the problem if you would let it?
- What is the spiritual challenge?
3) Will there be a time in the future that you will laugh about this?
- Then laugh about it now.
Language - Compared to when you feel well:
1) What is the tone of your voice. Is it slow with sentences sloping downward?
- Change it.
2) What kind of words are you using to describe why and what you are feeling?
- Try using words that are less negative. In place of “this is going to kill me” try “this is going to be challenging, I’ll need some help”.
3) Is there a word that triggers these feelings?
- Stop using or replace the word with another. For example: “I’m just crazy!” “Crazy” may be a trigger word for you from the past. Try, “I don’t agree”.
Environmental changes can also help:
1) Note any kind of food or other environmental exposure which may be associated with the feeling.
2) Take a cold shower or simply splash cold water on your face.
3) Look at and touch something or someone dear to you.
- A cross, your Bible, someone you love and trust.
- What Biblical verses can you refer to?
4) Go to a place that feels different
- Go for a walk, a run or punch a punching bag.
The bottom line, avoid practicing feeling any way that you feel isn’t authentic or that hurts you. Do practice getting your mind/body balance out of such places. It will build resilience for the future and be there when you need it.
Go to the Heal in Oneness video course to learn more!