Anger and Anxiety: What You Should Know

Breathe in, Spirit’s Love

Breathe out, Sharing Spirit’s Love

Breathe in, Owning Spirit’s Insights

Breathe out, dancing with Spirit

There is Spiritual intent behind every communication

Breathe life into Spirit’s intent for this moment

Breathe transforming wisdom into the old stories

Anchor Spiritual direction

Anchor Spiritual advances

Follow Spirit’s flow in each breath

Follow Spirit’s flow of each thought

Follow Spirit’s Flow in each decision

Follow Spirit’s flow in each conversation

Spirit’s flow finds the need

Spirit’s flow opens space for truth

Exploring our Way with Compassion

We’re on our way and we continue to seek out and partner with the support we decide to enlist in our efforts to grow and contribute at a level that inspires. We have clearly identified where, when and under what circumstances our suffering appears. We have looked into when our suffering seems to have first arisen and are actively looking for deeper understanding as to all of the less than inspiring habits we have developed along the way. We are using the twenty-four theories of conditioning to ask the right questions when we see evidence of suffering each day. We have developed a daily schedule that we are refining to include living compassionately are all aspects and everyone we are privileged to share our lives with. We have a partner that we share this path with and we are possibly still looking for that inspiring group that some had called a Sangha.

Developing Positive Intent

With all of this loving intent that we are infusing into each moment of our life, we will continue to run into the normal daily challenges we all face. At times, we may decide to limit these, allowing time to explore all the aspects of our suffering, applying the daily antidotes that we use to gently integrate and differentiate. “And we breathe in…and we breathe out”. Always with love, always with compassion, we are laying new foundations... giving ‘Spiritual Source’ all the centeredness we can generate to experience deeply the true nature of each moment.

Learning from the Second Poison along Our Way

We will tend to wander off course as we build our ability to maintain our efforts to incorporate new ideas and let go of others. As is our predilection, we will at times ‘lose our balance’ and feel the call of suffering to tend to a little (or not so little) rock in our garden. We will usually fall into one of the ‘Three Poisons’ and today we will begin to talk about the second of these poisons called anger. Anger and anxiety, as protective emotions, can warn us when the amount of ‘difference’ we are experiencing exceeds our comfort level. However, it also is one of the ways that we can habitually respond to pain. Instead of ‘looking mindfully into the nature of this pain’ for a compassionate response, we at times, let go of ‘our highest mind’. This transfers the energy generated by this pain in a manner that doesn't allow full access to unconscious mind. When our right brain dominates we will be in a state of anger or fear. The dominated left brain will be less attentive to commonalties as is its predilection. And, as long as ‘highest mind’ remains out of sync there will be little opportunity for mindful corrections. Often, when this position is held chronically, it leads to ongoing suffering with external factors generating new foci of pain. We are unable to correctly discern another's point of view as our highest mind is not engaged enough to receive the wisdom they may try to share. Then, in this state, as we are attached to our limited and inaccurate 'small self' views, we begin down the road of increasing anger and anxiety in a misplaced effort to defend our poorly integrated point of view.

Staying the Path: Learning from Anger and Anxiety

I’m not sure we ever get to the place where we completely ‘look forward’ to the lessons pain offers. We can learn to look forward to learning the lessons that will end suffering! When we look at ourselves and each other with loving kindness towards our mutual suffering we can open the doors that serve our wisdom. Meanwhile, we often begin our journey dealing with one issue and then another seems to have taken center stage. As you might imagine there are likely many connections within our unconsciousness even ones that connect these rocks in our garden. As we learn these connections we begin to really move forward in our appreciation of the path we have established. We begin to fill in the holes, integrate the wholeness of situations and differentiate into novel understandings of Oneness.

Buddhists refer to this kind of opportunity as ‘attachment’ as we are 'attached' to  points of view that don’t take into consideration many aspects of ourselves or others. Yet these attached views feel very real to us and take on a life of their own. We will tend to defend these poorly integrated views thus making our loving relationships more difficult, confusing and we all suffer. In this type of attached view 'anger' serves as a new locus of our ‘highest understanding’ and in many ways runs parallel to, but not with, our more Oneness minded ways of understanding and making decisions in our relationships.

Our anger and anxiety related attachments lead to inconsistencies in our treatment of the 'subject' of our anger and inconsistent aspects/derivations of this person, place or thing. This will be covered more fully when we discuss the twenty-four theories of conditioning. We will learn more about how this ‘disinformation’ spreads. Our inconsistencies are largely invisible to us, ignored or when pressed intensely justified e.g. rolling from on poison to another: greed, anger, delusion.  The anger contains within it, presumptions that we choose not to question. Anything or anyone who disagrees with our point of view is deemed wrong and ‘not to be trusted’.

It also serves as a major determiner of who we will align ourselves with, spend time with and ‘educate’ about the ‘right way’ to view things. The perceived danger from the 'subject' of our anger is exaggerated as our inability to recognize common interests is reciprocally weakened from a neurobiological perspective on up. Also, the three poisons often run together, going back and forth between which will dominate at any one point of time. We often will view ourselves as virtuous and ‘the others’ as villainous. This would be a shift to the third poison ‘delusion’ which we will discuss in other articles. We do our best to spread our perceptions as a form of self-justification as well as a method of ‘winning’ in a very ‘non-Oneness fashion’. As with the use of any of the ‘three poisons’, greed, anger or delusion, there is little healthy modulation or wholistic connection available within ourselves or in the decisions we make. We are at war and the other people, institution, or idea we are fighting is ‘bad’. Unfortunately, 'like attracts like' and soon we find that we have many hurt and angry people around us affirming our misperceptions.

At times, the person we are angry at is ourselves. In some way, this is always true. We use the same brain circuits whether we look 'in' or 'out'. We tend to become angry with people in ways we are angry at ourselves. At times (believe it or not!) we make mistakes. Sometimes these mistakes have serious consequences. And in the aftermath we, and others, may view us as terminally broken and/or dangerous.

Understanding the protective functions of anger and anxiety and how it can become one of 'the poisons' can help us to daily tend our garden. The Oneness Approach is like that. Each day tending the relationships of our lives, making them 1% better. Each moment feeling the 'spiritual source' in me and reaching out to the 'spiritual source' in others.


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