Begin the journey of ‘Oneness’
This is the real purpose of Oneness. This is the place we must go if we hope to root out deeply held, painful attachments. In delusion our highest mind has been compromised. There is no higher circuit in the brain to discover and integrate these distortions. We must use ‘highest mind’ to find the distortions in ‘highest mind’.
Distortions will be difficult to spot but we will 'percieve', ‘respond to’, ‘think about’ and ‘look out for’ differently than when we are not in these distortions. Buddhist’s call this the Skandha process please see more about this in our articles about Buddhism.
To be able to spot these and other distortions we must train ourselves both unconsciously and consciously to look for them. We do have a highest mind and it is doing its best to incorporate new information as it updates its best guess at how our higher would like us to thing, feel and act as we go through our life. Unfortunately, we go on complete automatic a lot, which means that highest mind really isn’t metabolically as active as it can be. When we are challenged and our highest mind is on and up to the task it may feel like one of those peak experiences when we are, ‘in the zone’.
We can be, ‘in the Zone’, when we are typing, hitting a fast ball, making a three pointer in basketball, but…living our life at that level often doesn’t come naturally. And few of us have been taught how to do so or even felt the need to do so.
There are many reasons to consider taking this journey e.g. maximizing functions of all aspects of our physical health, perceptions, relationships, awareness, intimacy , etc.
Today, we’ll talk about finding those pesky delusions!
It begins with meditation centered in our relationship with our ‘spiritual source’ by whatever name we call it. We follow our breath. We breathe in…feeling the love of our spiritual source. We breathe out and feel the love our spiritual source has for all beings. Being in relationship with our spiritual source feels a certain way, it is calming, is optimizes our breathing or whatever else we decided to focus it one. When we seem to have this we can move to 'Guarding Your Doors Meditation'. Here we expand our sense of spiritual source by optimizing our gaze to the major organization circuits of our mind-body and mind-mind circuitry. We do this and expand the meditation from eyes closed (at the very first), to eyes open (with the start of Guarding Your Doors Meditation), to walking meditation, to living meditation. At this point (and this practice will last the rest of our lives), we are living with our best effort to be ‘in the zone’ or ‘in the moment’ or ‘living awake’ all day.
As we begin these practices we begin to notice thoughts, feeling and actions that don’t seem to represent the love and compassion of our spiritual source. We likely also notice the thoughts, feeling and actions related to the ‘Three Poisons’ and are slowly becoming more able to be aware of their presence. We then can look to see when we are experiencing these feelings; with a certain person, place or thing. Using the theories of ‘Dependent Origination’ we are able to seek out, follow and extinguish the poisons we encountered in our practice and related poisons through their relationships with each other.
Mindfulness Roots out Delusions in Therapy
In therapy, our therapist will usually begin to mirror to us things that we seem to be doing right. As time goes by they may choose to reflect tendencies we have where we are not only right but that we are consistently right and are helping others. This builds trust, affirms our understanding of our spiritual source, our strengths and how we successfully use these in our life.
For reasons that may make little sense to us, we may resist these affirmations. The affirmations may seem painful or absurd. And we may then run into our old friend... “I’m bad and you don’t even know it!” And maybe even, “I’m bad, I’m just better at it and I’m even fooling you!". Over time listening to our therapist’s reflections on our talents may seem uncomfortable, pathetic, painful and somehow dangerous.
If things are going down a difficult part of the path it may look something like this. So we miss appointments, we reject the therapist; if we make them angry then it might be safer to return. It’s more comfortable when they ‘suspect’ we may be bad, but they still have to be ‘on our side’. They can’t ‘know we are bad’, that would not work. For now they suspect the truth. We are truly a terrible person. We can’t be trusted. And if they persist in holding a positive view of us, then we either leave or create an all-out war in therapy and it begins to look a lot like how our life goes with those who try to love us.
If we run, we run back into the darkness and pain with growing consequences. We confuse those who love us, we teach these habits to our children and we remain alone…even when surrounded by friends. Therapists often hold back on affirmations when they recognize the pain it induces. Only time and trust will allow such exploration. The therapist may mention in a reflective way a pattern of positive thoughts that we allow for ourselves, then slowly build on this beautiful little crystal, in the ‘half full’ cup of our therapy.
Ask yourself these questions:
1) Do you have a pretty solid hold on your chosen belief system?
2) Are there places where you make exceptions to the way you feel about most people?
3) What kind of feelings come up when you think about changing your mind about these exceptions? How intense are they? Where do they come from? Do they still make sense?
4) Are there things that you accept as part of your identity that really don’t fit the loving teachings of your chosen Higher Power?
5) Do you tend to judge people? Under what circumstances does this happen? What feelings accompany these judgments? How might these tendencies be affecting you and others at home, work or with friends?
6) Where have you suffered hurt in your past? No one should go back and dwell on such times for no reason. However, we can go back to see what we have learned as we went through these times and make sure that we still agree with ‘what we learned’. Maybe we need to revisit the things we learned and ‘update’ or refine our beliefs around these issues?
7) How are your family relationships? How is your intimate relationship? What will take these relationships to the next level? What seems to be keeping this from happening? What feelings go along with these issues? Do you remember such feelings in your past?
8) Take the above and use a mindful application of the love of your higher power to your daily life.