Life Changes are Opportunities!
Life can come at you fast and your family is depending on you to have the answers. You may be an expert at work. You may even be a specialist in helping others with similar changes. The reality is that this is the first time that you and your family have dealt with this change. Let’s feel into this a bit, so that you and your family can make the most of any opportunity that might be available.
Life changes provide an opportunity to consider major shifts in where you live, where you work and life roles. What if these recent changes were not happening to you but happening for you? What if some of the changes you could previously only dream of, are now suddenly possible? Think about it. What parts of your family’s life has become stale or has at least run its course. Take a step back…way back. Where can you go? What kind of new opportunities, new friends and growthful experiences are now available? How long have you been holding yourself back? How long has it been since you allowed yourself this kind of freedom?
Five Traps to Avoid When Facing Life Changes
Let’s look at some of the common traps you may have fallen into:
Many people only consider new life opportunities when they finally feel overwhelmed. In this state, resources are drained and options appear limited.
Needless prolonged periods of stress promote mental and physical breakdowns with depression, anxiety, obesity and a wide variety of inflammatory illnesses to name a few.
- Noticing and addressing daily challenges promotes recognition of personal strengths.
- Looking for new opportunities to grow your relationships by one percent each day promotes wise use of personal strengths.
Living your life reactively in one arena, tends to spread habitually to other areas of your life. Change is viewed through the eyes of fear. Other people and life situations become the major drivers of your life.
- Ask yourself each morning, “What changes and opportunities is my Spiritual Source making available today for me and my family? This creates a proactive, compassionate and exciting attitude towards life. You live your life on your own terms, no matter what.
- When each morning you consider the life stories of each of your family members, you will learn to “see around the corner” to optimize both today and likely changes tomorrow may bring.
- With the above two habits in place, unexpected pain is better avoided and your family's time in a “flight or fight” situations and last minute decisions is lessened.
People tend to be “conflict avoidant” and agree to what they feel in their hearts won’t work. Thus, one bad decision is followed by another providing even less confidence as time goes by.
- Create an evening ritual to look for things to be grateful for each day. This stimulates your brain circuits to grow along successful paths while you sleep. through the process called neuroplasticity.
- Noting where you were successful in growing relationships that day increases nerve growth factors building confidence in your ability to know what will work for your relationships.
After a decision, many people resist following-up on the results of the decision.
Making personal decisions for you and your family is an art. Each family is different but following up on your decisions is critical to every decision your body makes. There is a feedback loop for every mind-body system. Your Subconscious Mind is following the results of your decisions. If you include a brief period of meditation (5 minutes) in the morning and evening you will learn to identify this call from your Subconscious Mind.
Your Subconscious Mind asks that you “put into words” a process that will help you align your Conscious Mind with your Subconscious Mind while following up on any decision.
- Create weekly or monthly goal setting and review with your family possibly at a family meal.
- Encourage real conversations of efforts made during daily meals, preferably at the beginning and towards the end of each day. The advantages of this particular habit are endless!
- People are going through life for the first time. They are uncertain if they will be able to follow through successfully.
With a major life change, old decisions that have created harmony may be taken for granted and let go. Longer term decisions that have been carefully reviewed over time carry many advantages that may not be fully realized.
Creating a ritual of thankfulness can capture and build these subtle advantages. Make a point of thanking at least one person each day for some aspect of the relationship. It may seem awkward at first but will “roll off of your tongue” in no time. It will deepen and provide direction for all of you and your family’s relationships.
People tend to live with chronically unbalanced lives and at the edge of their tolerances. They may spend too much time at work, not enough time with their spouse and children, have too few friends or life interests and no time to thoughtfully consider the many possible changes that each day brings.
Take charge of the changes in your life. All information is guided by principles that help you to engage your spiritual beliefs into your “sense of self”, your relationships and your life. The Oneness Approach is the result of endless gifts others have provided me as their psychiatrist and their friend.
I am happy to use these gifts to offer you a risk-free membership to the Oneness Approach, in which you will learn to identify your many strengths and use them to make the best possible life decisions for yourself and your family.