Your System of Mirror Neurons
When we “feel into” who we are and what we are feeling and then look at another, we activate our mirror neuron system. This system allows you to literally copy the activity of another’s neuronal systems. The more we activate our interoceptive and mirror neurons the greater our potential for building rapport and communication. For example, when an intimate partner sees his or her mate given a shock on a particular finger, the same pain areas are activated in both individuals.
It is clear that improving our personal alignment between our Conscious and Subconscious Mind (Internal or Within Oneness) provides depth to such communication. Setting up daily practices like prayer or meditation along with moment-to-moment practices like taking a deep breath can be helpful in this regard. People have also discovered that a weekend or even a weeklong retreat can greatly augment this awareness and result in greater Between and Beyond Oneness as well.
Increasing the Effectiveness of Your Mirror Neurons
To increase the effectiveness of our mirror neurons we need to first realize that they work under the same three Oneness pillars as we do. They must align their Conscious-Subconscious Minds just like we do to effectively use their Subconscious resources. This means that they must form some sense of relationship between their Conscious Mind and a verbal understanding of the Subconscious Mind. Although this relationship may be understood in very different ways e.g. Spiritual vs. “Child Within” from a brain standpoint, they serve the same function. How they refer to this relationship is less important than understanding how this understanding works for them.
Using vs Not Using Your Mirror Neurons
Let’s use an example. Let’s say you have a “Code of Conduct” that encompasses your moment-to-moment intention. Let’s also say that it is very inclusive of others under almost any circumstance. Let’s also suppose that you have developed this to a very high level, always looking to learn and grow. You will be able to ground very well and also be able to mirror the feelings of others effectively. Let’s say another person refers to their Subconscious Mind as their “Inner Child” because they read a few pages of Charles Whitfield’s book. Let’s also suppose that they never provided themselves the time to feel into it or create daily practices around it. Once more, let’s suppose that this person has surrounded themselves with fairly like-minded people, as is often the case.
This second person is going to struggle to remain aligned with almost any stress. With limited access to their Subconscious Mind they will become more anxious or angry with minimal provocation. Chronically this is difficult to tolerate, so they may offset these tendencies with addictive self-soothing like eating, drinking using drugs, etc. Eventually this leads to some form of judgmentalness. When confronted with something that confuses them they will tend to judge themselves or others in a negative fashion. Unfortunately, judgmentalness provides an answer and turns off their mirror neurons. This makes it more difficult for them to “feel into” their Subconscious resources and simultaneously makes it difficult for others to mirror how they “really feel”. These superficial judgments stand in place of and are acted on as if this was really how they felt when their Conscious and Subconscious Minds were aligned. Like-minded people would only encourage and deepen such judgmentalness. So to answer a frequently asked question…they do actually believe what they are saying.
On the other hand let’s suppose that the other person was a devoutly spiritual person. Let’s also say that they applied these principles to their daily practices and were inclusive of all people in almost every imaginable situation. As long as you did not prejudge this person for believing in something they cannot see (Like the Subconscious Mind itself!), you both would have full access to your mirror neuronal systems and would be capable of fairly deep rapport.
As you can see, allowing another to refer to their Internal Oneness according to their custom can greatly increase rapport, communication and even deepen our own understandings of ourselves and our Oneness. It is how we apply our understandings to our life that has the potential to build this second pillar of Oneness and the depth and flexibility of rapport with others.
Forming Oneness Relationships with Mirror Neurons
There is rapport ... and then there is a deeper knowing that you and the other person can form a deep mutually transforming Oneness relationship. Here your mirror neurons have had time to discover the commonalities of your Subconscious Minds. Some have called this the necessary “it” that allows a deep transformative relationship. What this basically means is that the two of you can form a lasting relationship and trust that when confronted with a difference of opinion there will likely be an answer that is growthful and transformative for you both.
This depth of Internal Oneness can lead to a number of beneficial tendencies. Instead of avoiding conflict, a difference of opinion can be seen as an opportunity for one or both to grow. The resilience that each person’s internal Oneness provides is augmented by their relationship Oneness.
And yet, there is still more. Let’s talk about the third pillar of Oneness. The sustained use of our Oneness Beyond can make all of life easier.
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