The Neurobiology of Human Needs Psychology
Anthony Robbins, entrepreneur, author and peak performance strategist, developed a way to address human needs. He serves to help us understand our needs and help those who want to find where and why they are confused. He states that knowing our top two human needs can facilitate break-throughs and take our lives to the next level. He uses these understandings to help him make better decisions in each of our relationships. The following six needs run in accord with the approach of Human Needs Psychology, developed by Anthony Robbins. I have provided the names of the brain structures I believe correlate with each of these needs.
What are my underlying tendencies? More of ‘1’ means less of '2' and more of ‘3’ mean less of ‘4’ and vice versa:
- How much sameness or consistency do I prefer in my life? (Left brain dominant)
- How much difference or excitement do I prefer in my life? (Right brain dominant)
- How much am I driven by the need to feel close to the people in my life? (Mirror neuron dominant)
- How much am I driven by the need to feel independent in my relationship with others? (Self-perception dominant)
- How much am I driven by the need to grow? (OFC self-perception dominant)
- How much am I driven by the need to contribute? (OFC other perception dominant)
What other traits might I inherit or develop? Are they as integrated? Can they lead to suffering?
Many of our traits are derived from one of the above and integrate well into our life until we get to the extremes. With too much sameness we feel bored. With too much difference we feel anxious or angry. With too much closeness we lose ourselves. With too little closeness we end up alone. With a dominant need to grow we alienate others. With a dominant need to contribute we may forget our need to grow and falter. Even at these extremes with help we can usually identify what we are feeling and why. The internal integration, the overarching influence of the 'Highest Mind' remains intact.
We can also inherit or develop traits that are less well integrated. This is often the reason many seek therapy as this lack of integration shows up in both our internal sense of Oneness which creates difficulties in establishing Oneness in our relationships. The usual relationship rules won't work. Those we are close to may be attracted to us initially but as we pull closer they, including our loved ones, won't sense who we are, nor understand our decision making and everyone suffers. We may feel ‘this is just the way I am’, or we may not see it at all.
The Bottom Line
Now, with the above information, what do we know about this second approach to Oneness called our relationships to others in the six relationship types. We are born with certain inherited tendencies that are refined by our upbringing and those who surround us. Our approach to our ‘spiritual source’ is going to be very similar to those who gave birth to and raised us. (Although we very well may deny this...until we can't!) Over time we form our own personal sense of 'spiritual source' and this becomes the most powerful influence on our mental decision making.
With the help of our relationships, we can look for, find, and be inspired by the 'spiritual source' we experience with others. We choose to be in relationships with others who inspire us spiritually. We have things in common, but often the relationships we choose seem to have the spiritual understandings we lack, but find effective. Here we can develop the relationships that teach us directly about the parts of us that we have yet to perceive. We can develop our relationships and surround us with those who inspire us in areas where we want ongoing personal growth in mindful ways.
We can also choose to create or place ourselves in environments where others feel similarly, empowering our efforts which are then mirrored and accelerated. We can choose to acknowledge that we are not in control of all the factors of our life. We know that we don’t have or know all that we need. Some of our needs remain unconscious and are sifted through with our life experiences. We can choose to practice living in Oneness, knowing every interaction in every moment of our lives is another opportunity to dig deeper into who we are in our relationships, and who we can become.
Given our desire to grow both consciously and unconsciously, we create a balance in our lives that enable opportunities to grow in both arenas. We consciously make decisions that allow the unconscious mind to grow. We consciously assimilate what the unconscious mind has learned, and we consciously follow our unconscious call to guarding the intent we bring to each moment.
Knowing that our growth and contributions provide a connection to our ‘spiritual source’, we acknowledge the gifts we have been given and plan our lives mindfully. We do this in a balanced loving manner, for the benefit of the sustaining growth and joy of ourselves and others. We walk this earth, each moment talking in Oneness with our spiritual source and seeing our this same Oneness in everyone and all that surrounds us.